I am Grateful: 8.20.2017

Sunday, August 20th, 2017 07:52 am
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Is everybody ready for the big show tomorrow? 

I count from the time I do my grateful moments to now a day.  So including what happen before I went to bed last night, I had a very productive and exciting day.  I was in the middle of a mini rant, when the power went out (probably a sign).  There was this loud bang, and no power.  Then there's a group of random strangers walking around going "what?".  Apparently a couple power lines below ground had a fit, and things went boom.  The techs came out, and one of them was like saying there are probably going to be more explosions, and I was like "you promise", and he said he would be more comfy if we were further away from the action.  promises, promises. 

I am grateful for and love my father.  He keeps me well supplied in the event of an emergency.  Like LED flash lights. *thumbs up*

I am grateful for and love lazy Sunday mornings.  I slept till 1030am this morning.  It was grand.  I loved it.  I did my Miracle Morning, and went grocery shopping, got some gas, and came home. 

I am grateful for and love Meditation.  Awesome Guides, Angels, Gods and Goddesses all come to visit, it's always a learning experience, or more guidance, because well I'm learning.

I am grateful for and love the fact that I have the house to myself.  Really it's awesome.   I have the cats, and the I can do things with out being interrupted...most of the time (because you know, cats).

I am grateful for and love that I chose not to go to the Festival today.   It's the first day of heavy flow on Moon Called week aka Shark Week, take your pick.

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Sunday, August 20th, 2017 08:36 pm
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Five minutes into The Defenders and I'm bored. I have zero patience for fight scenes anymore.

Honestly I'm only here for Jessica Jones. (I DNF the JJ series because it hardcore triggered me, but I fell in love with her and I'm hoping I can enjoy her in this one without a panic attack.)

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Sunday, August 20th, 2017 07:35 pm
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The spouse reconnected with his former therapist via Facebook instant messaging this weekend. They got to talking about current events.

"I counseled a member of a neo-Nazi group once," the therapist said.

"Did you learn anything useful about the movement?"

"This particular fellow was a victim of childhood sexual abuse. I think that was the root of his rage," the therapist said.

It makes me wonder how things would be different if American mental health care were in better shape.
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Posted by Exchequer

I'm taking a trip in October to France, Spain, Portugal, Morocco and Italy. What it the most economical way to make my US Sprint Galaxy S7 work for voice calls while traveling? BONUS QUESTION: Same. but for data.

My current plan with Sprint is unlimited voice and data, domestic US.

travels

Sunday, August 20th, 2017 05:28 pm
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Went on an overnight trip thing Fri-Sat.

We camped! In a tent! That I pitched! At the beach!!!

Back. Today am very tired, not feel great today; restaurants are dangerous.

Tomorrow is Eclipse Day. Need to go very early because everyone will be go place do thing!

Should repack car. Keep going flat instead. Flat cat. Mrrrr... zzzz...
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Posted by Marykate Jasper

Architect and producer Kai Cole has posted a devastating account of her and Joss Whedon’s 16-year marriage, which ended after a very private five-year separation. In her piece, Cole reveals that Whedon cheated on her multiple times and lied about it, and she accuses Whedon of “the hypocrisy of being out in the world preaching feminist ideals, while at the same time, taking away my right to make choices for my life and my body based on the truth.”

“He deceived me for 15 years,” Cole writes, “so he could have everything he wanted. I believed, everyone believed, that he was one of the good guys, committed to fighting for women’s rights, committed to our marriage, and to the women he worked with. But I now see how he used his relationship with me as a shield, both during and after our marriage, so no one would question his relationships with other women or scrutinize his writing as anything other than feminist.”

I encourage you to read the whole post.

Cole writes that Whedon first began cheating on her on the set of Buffy, but more affairs followed after that – affairs which he hid from her. He only revealed his cheating when he filed for divorce after their nearly two decades together.

A lot of what Cole describes from Whedon sounds like sounds like classic “nice guy” behavior and entitlement; it’s the sort of stuff we’ve all seen before. For example, Whedon reportedly described his Buffy affair like this: “When I was running Buffy, I was surrounded by beautiful, needy, aggressive young women. It felt like I had a disease, like something from a Greek myth. Suddenly I am a powerful producer and the world is laid out at my feet and I can’t touch it.” I mean, ew.

And Cole writes that she doubted her own suspicions, because of Whedon’s public commitments to feminism. “There were times in our relationship that I was uncomfortable with the attention Joss paid other women,” she says. “He always had a lot of female friends, but he told me it was because his mother raised him as a feminist, so he just liked women better. He said he admired and respected females, he didn’t lust after them. I believed him and trusted him.”

Now, just so we can get it out of the way: yes, this piece comes with the caveats that (1) people who are recently divorced sometimes say shitty, exaggerated things about one another because they’re in a lot of pain (2) monogamy, especially given its patriarchal history, is not a pre-condition for a feminist life. (Honesty with your partner(s) is, though!) It’s fine to consider these two points when absorbing this piece, but don’t try and use them to dismiss it, okay?

This must’ve been an incredibly difficult piece for Cole to write, and – whatever positive impact Whedon’s work may have had on the industry, or on any of us personally – it sounds like he was a pretty terrible husband. I’m sorry she had to put up with this so quietly for so long, and I hope speaking up will help her heal.

(Via The Wrap; image via Shutterstock)

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This water was made for walking

Sunday, August 20th, 2017 11:51 pm
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Posted by ferret branca

I am supposed to walk in a pool. Any recommendations for a public pool where I can do so in NYC (particularly downtown Manhattan/Brooklyn)? Extra points if it's near some type of transit. Many thanks.


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Posted by davidstandaford

I asked a previous question about late fees from my landlord over rent payments. I haven't paid any of the late fees yet. Now, it's time to renew the lease and, and I want to stay, and the landlord wants the full amount. How much should I offer my landlord, and how should I handle it with her?

Short recap from November: over an extended period of time I was paying rent a day or two late. My landlord never mentioned this was an issue, until eventually coming to me and saying I owed $1,400 in late fees ($200 times 7) My original question said $1,200, but I think I missed one late payment. Some answers suggested that it was absurd to ask me for this money, and I shouldn't pay, so I didn't. I didn't hear anything about this again from my landlord since last January.

It's now time to renew the lease. My landlord said I need to pay the late fees before I can renew. I want to stay, but don't want to pay an extra $1,400. Note - these late fees are all from two leases ago, e.g. not even the most recent lease period. So I already re-signed the lease once while having these late fees on my record. I don't know why she was willing to re-sign the lease before, other than that she is very disorganized.

This is NYC, and she uses an apartment broker that the landlord pays the cost of, so it would be around $1,300 cost to them to pay a broker to fill my room. Plus if I moved out, my roommates probably would too, so the total cost to the landlords would be more like $4,000 to fill the entire apartment.

I want to stay, but not pay the full amount. How much should I offer the landord? How should I phrase it? If I moved out, I think the landlord knows she wouldn't get any of the money from me. So she would eat the cost, and have to pay the broker to find a new person to live here.

I realize that I was paying the rent late, but I think waiting a full year to mention it after I had accumulated $1,400 in late fees is absurd and unfair. If I offer something less, and the landlord says no, I'll end up paying the full amount. I don't want to move, and my roommates don't either. But, I think I should offer some partial amount first, rather than the full $1,400. Thoughts? How should I handle this?

after long silence

Sunday, August 20th, 2017 07:50 pm
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The thing about not posting for a long time is, it makes it seem ever harder to post something again.

The thing -- well, a thing -- about the state of my native country is, it makes almost anything I could post about my day-to-day life seem picayune.

But my life is my life, and I live it day to day, and that, especially fannish aspects thereof, is what I generally write about here. So I'm going to try to do so again.

I went to VividCon, and it was great )

My lay chaplaincy had a sort of epilogue today )

Kayaking continues to be tremendous fun! )

My cat is hanging on, amazing our vet )

And we have another big trip coming up! )

thoughts (somewhat spoilery) on fannish TV: Orphan Black, Sense8, The Handmaid's Tale )

Aside from all this, I'm reading lots of light fanfic, lots of heavy stuff on Twitter (although I don't post much there either), and the occasional book. And now I'm going to wrap up this enormous post and go lie on the couch. My evening plan!

Sunday Yardening

Sunday, August 20th, 2017 06:08 pm
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Today is sunny and hot, ugh.  I made it out to water plants and pick a pepper for Doug's supper. 

Poem: "To Appreciate Small Victories"

Sunday, August 20th, 2017 02:01 pm
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This poem is spillover from the March 7, 2017 Poetry Fishbowl. It was inspired by prompts from [personal profile] kyleri, [livejournal.com profile] rix_scaedu, and [personal profile] sweet_sparrow. It also fills the "anxiety" square in my 3-1-17 card for the Disability Bingo fest. This poem has been sponsored by Anthony & Shirley Barrette. It belongs to the Shiv thread of the Polychrome Heroics series.

Warning: This poem contains some intense topics. Highlight to read the warnings. It features prison inmates, group therapy, a show soup with some goat features including syndactyly and prey instincts, references to adaptive equipment, vulgar and intrusive talk, spitball leading to a prey reaction, refusal to apologize, speciesist language, discussion of disabilities, adoption issues, learning to compensate for a lost hand, and other challenges. If these are sensitive issues for you, please consider your tastes and headspace before reading onward.

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